I know that I am still legally married but we are definitely getting divorced. There is no chance of salvaging out relationship. I love him and we are working on being friends -- that's what I want more than anything. I want to be FRIENDS with him, we're working on it.
The good thing is -- he is genuinely a NICE guy and I know he still loves me (because I know I still love him) so after we can work through everything, we can be friends.
So, while I'm still married, I'm definitely not UNAVAILABLE the same way these other guys are. I can't just do anything I want because I have kids.
Oh, yes -- I have children. They are more important than you -- they aren't going anywhere. I can't do anything about having kids -- but even if I could, I wouldn't. They are my loves, my whole heart and I wouldn't be able to breath without them.
Speaking of the loves of my life, I also have RULES about dating me:
- you cannot come over to my house. Simply because I have children and I am not inviting men into their lives. Yes, I have male friends who come over but they are legitimate FRIENDS -- no "benefits", no sex. These friends are really just friends. If we are romantic at all, then you just can't come to my house.
- if I do let you come over to my house, it will be after 8pm and you can't stay all night. But you have to be at a certain level to even get to this point and it's not quick.
- I will talk about my kids but you can't meet them until after you meet my ex. That's just a rule. I expect him to do the same to be. It's just courteous and respectful in my eyes.
Even though I've been meeting mostly duds, I'm having fun with it. I'm not taking anything too seriously. I don't want to get hurt -- anytime I think I start to like someone, I just back away a little.
I'm just loving life right now -- even though I'm bored tonight. Ha!
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I LOVE the rule that they have to meet "the ex" (I feel horrible not using his name and simply calling him "the ex", but I'll respect his privacy.) I think that way you will know the people the girls are meeting will play a role in their life, and not just leave shortly after he meets them, you know?
I love your rules, mine are almost the same. Except..I have better judgement than the ex, so I really don't care to have him meet anyone I would remotely think of introducing to the kids. If there ever is someone special for me, he'll probably have to meet my parents first..lol. What's up with these "unavailables"? Bah..they shouldn't be allowed to advertise if they have no vacancy.
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